Reflections on Recovering From a Heart Transplant


 

On August 21, 2007, I received a new heart at the Mayo Clinic in Jacksonville, Florida.  I also received a new life, a new attitude and a new appreciation for my family and friends.

 

I’m not going to write about the difficulties I encountered but rather I will attempt to describe my enrichment by the process.  Here are some of my “awakenings” of the last eleven months.

 

  • A new appreciation for life and a new ability to “see” things I was oblivious to before my transplant.  Now I “see” nature and the life around us, I “see” children at play, puppies, and love.  Yes, you can “see” love but you have to look and comprehend.

 

  • I have found the real meaning of love and it is far deeper than words.  Love, is a look, a touch, a gesture a movement.  Love can be seen in people’s eyes, how they listen and the helpful actions they take.   Sometimes you can be aware of love even though the actions taken might be wrong.

 

  • The gift of life is the ultimate in giving.  While receiving the gift is relatively easy, making the decision to give is sometimes difficult, especially for families with dying loved ones who have healthy organs.  Yet thousands of people make that decision every year despite the enormous grief they are experiencing.  I hope my donor family knows how intensely grateful I am.  I hope they know that they not only saved my life, but also caused great happiness for me, my family and my friends.  Let us not forget the living donors.  Can there be a greater expression of love, concern and compassion than those who voluntarily give all or part of an organ?  I think not.

 

  • While I loved my family unconditionally before the transplant I love them more deeply now, than ever.  And – while it sounds selfish, I now understand the depth of their love for me and how what affects me has an equal effect on them.  Oh, how the phrase, “No man is an island …” applies.  We should all recognize that and we would be far better people.  My greatest blessing is my wife, Robin.  I simply cannot express my love for her.  I won the biggest lottery ever when I found her. 

 

  • My dear, dear friends.  An experience like the one I just had really lets you know who your friends are.  There are friendly acquaintances and there are true, loving friends.  While both are important to me, few of the people I know fall into the latter category.  One has been a friend since we were ten years old.  I finally know what the word means; I suspect he has always known. 

 

I have learned so much more than the five items listed here, but these are the personal lessons that stand out.  All in all, I have to believe I have come out of this experience as a better person and one whose “betterness” will continue to grow.  In many ways, I wish everyone could have a transplant, we might all be better for it.

 

Please read and comment on my World Wide Issues  blogs on http://blogsbybob.wordpress.com.   Also…visit my Facebook site, Organ Transplant Patients, Friends and You at  http://tinyurl.com/225cfh  OR — my Facebook home page  http://www.facebook.com/home.php

 

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About Bob Aronson

Bob Aronson is a former journalist, a Minnesota Governor's Press Secretary and talk show host. For nearly a quarter of a century, he led the Aronson Partnership, a Minnesota-based communications consultancy that prepared corporate and government executives for crisis situations, regulatory testimony, media interviews and Presentations. Among his clients were all three U.S. Mayo Clinic locations, 3M, general Mills, CH2M Hill, the U.S. Department of Energy and scores more. In 2007 bob had a heart transplant after suffering from idiopathic dilated cardiomyopathy for 12 years. Shortly after he got his new heart he founded the now 4,300 member Facebook support group, Organ Transplant Initiative. At the same time, he established the Bob's Newheart blog where he has posted nearly 300 columns on organ donation, transplantation and other health related issues. The Viewpoint blog was started in late 2016 and bears the name of the Radio Talk show Bob did from 1966 until 1974, when he resigned to become Minnesota Governor Rudy Perpich first Press secretary. Bob and his artist wife Robin, live in Jacksonville, Florida with their two dogs, Reilly and Ziggy. Bob is also a woodworker and makes all of the furnishings for Robin's art festival booth. He also makes one of a kind jewelry or "memories" boxes that he donates to select transplant patients, caregivers, donor families and others who have somehow contributed to making life easier for the ill, the elderly and the less fortunate. Bob is in the final stages of editing two full-length novels that will be available on Kindle when ready for release sometime in early 2017. One is a sci fi novel about an amazing discovery near Roswell, New Mexico and you will be surprised to find it has nothing to do with the Roswell story everyone knows. It features a woman scientist who investigates impact craters for the U.S. Department of the Interior, Dr. Rita Sylvester and her female student intern. The other book is a political thriller that introduces a new hero to the genre, Fargo Dennison.

Posted on July 16, 2008, in journaling, Organ Donation, recovery. Bookmark the permalink. 1 Comment.

  1. Beautiful words written I believe from a beautiful heart.

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